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I’ve had this post in my head for months now and I’m just working up the nerve to post it. You might have noticed a blogging break earlier this year. And you might have noticed a setting change. Maybe you even noticed that there were more posts involving my parents (Gigi and Grandpa).
Gigi (I totally get my goofiness from my mom)
And Grandpa (the one who can always make these boys laugh!)
The truth is, my husband and I separated. We were in a rough spot. Since he has to be in Alabama, I decided to leave and stay with my parents until we figured out the next step. They live in Arizona…and I drove there myself with 3 boys and as many of our belongings as I could fit. I cried through each state, at each “welcome to…” sign, and every night in the hotels. I felt broken and lost. The future I had imagined was vanishing before my eyes and I didn’t know what to do about it. Every mile we drove we were a mile away from that future, so it seemed.
We spent 4 months in Arizona and I learned a lot. I learned I am strong. I learned that I obsess over little things too much. I learned that I take my husband for granted sometimes and other times I need to stand up for myself better. I learned that it’s okay to fight and it’s okay to be wrong. The drive back to Alabama was no easier, though there was a lot less crying.
We’ve been back for 2 months now and things are better – much better.
The boys have their Daddy back…and that’s what is most important of all. 
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I'm tearing up…I think we all go through these kinds of rough patches. I don't know how I would handle separation, but it is affirming to know that sometimes that is the cure. Glad to hear everything is better. Thank you for opening yourself up. Sometimes we compare our deleted scenes with everyone else's highlight reel and forget that we are all human, we all have those moments we never want to confess to.
Thank you Jennifer! I had to write it and post and not think about it anymore. It's hard to open up especially about the tough times.
It's so great so see a couple who are giving it another try! So many couples just give up without a fight. Even if it doesn't work out it's wonderful that you're together now and putting in the effort.
Thanks Eddie! It's hard giving it another shot but worth it in the end, I'm sure.
Thank you for sharing….I can imagine that was hard! How scary it must have been to leave. And I am SO glad that you guys ar able to work things out!!! Wishing your family a happy new start!! HUGS
Beth
Thank you Beth!
Thank you for sharing this piece of you with us all. It can be so hard to be transparent while blogging for the world to see. Good luck with everything..I hope things continue to improve!
Thank you Katie! I was a bit worried sharing this but pleasantly surprised by all the supportive comments!
I am so sorry that you have had such a rough year. =( Big hugs to you. What a blessing to have your mom and dad to lean on.
Thank you for being so honest. My sincerest best wishes for you as you move forward on the journey of building your marriage up.
I am so blessed that my parents were there for me when I needed them! I don't know what we would have done without them.
Thank you Rebekah!
Making a decision like that for your family does not sound easy. I'm so glad you have been able to learn from it, and that you were able to come back together.
It was definitely a difficult decision to make. Thank you Heather!
My parents did separated like that for several months this year, and I know how paintful it is for everyone involved, even when the "kids" are 29 and 33. So glad everything worked out for you guys
(It sounds like my parents are headed toward a happy ending too!)
I hope your parents make it through! Our separation showed us how much we really need each other. I guess the saying is right, Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
I'm glad to hear things are going better!
Thanks Cassie!
It is so heart warming to hear in this day and age a couple that values their marriage, family and relationship and understands that it is hard work. So many people just give up without ever trying. You had me tearing up over my morning coffee as you took us on your journey in this post. My sincerest heartfelt wishes go out to you and your family on your renewed journey together! You are both an inspiration to us all.
I'm praying for you. So wonderful to hear that you both didn't give up but are pressing on.